Love and Lust

At many a times I fail to distinguish between these two words of English literature. The line that separates these two words seems to be disappearing very rapidly beyond age, caste, religion and all dimensions of known and unknown demography. Several times I debated with my friends about this issue and we end up with arguments and counter arguments where they always try to change my opinion but seldom succeeded.

I always say every love starts with an infatuation rather it should start with infatuation. I will tell you why! The true essence of love is “SECULAR”. It should not ask your social and economical dimension, it should just happen. But a recent conversation with one of friend I found now people fall into love after doing a lot of Cost and Benefit analysis. May be our Finance professionals should coin a new term something like ILR (Internal Love of Return) in the line of IRR (Internal Rate of Return). I wonder what kind of love I should call it. Now here the thin line separating love and lust come far more closure to each than anyone can conceive.

With change of time and values of society, we are becoming more materialistic than ever, we try to monetize every factor of social and personal relationship. Where it ends I cannot predict and for that matter this may only cease to exist the day when the world will disappear into a small ball of fire and we will turn into some history only to found out by some alien by undertaking an inter planetary journey. With decreasing resources people tend to hoard the last possible resource to have an upper hand over their peers. But in this struggle of survival we are going away from the very essence of love and affection. Everything is now measured in terms of number, whether it is bank balance or body figure.

But I understand still there might be some cases where a love starts with infatuation but till the time the parties involved transform their lust into love our materialistic mindset overrides all emotional feelings and the world around them questions them about their feelings in terms of gains and loses consequential to marriage. Yes! this reminds me why society thinks that every love should culminate in marriage or some relationship to which the society endorse. Of course someone can argue that in order to avoid chaos the society enforces some order to which we should endorse but any order should not stop us from innovation. When I say innovation the thought of gay and lesbian relationship hit instantly to my mind. In India the IPC considers any unnatural sex as a crime but there are a lot of people who think otherwise, so who is right here and who is wrong or both in their thought process are right. It is quite possible, in societal mathematics there is nothing absolute, because a lady who is sister of someone is also wife of someone else.

In concluding words I would say lust is not bad because it is the factor that binds two heterogeneous objects into a single entity, of course friction would be there but this friction always gets smoothed on the bed and culminates in each other’s desire. This animal instinct actually keeps two beings truly human but till it is not coercing someone to do something against his/her desire. So! folks go and enjoy the lust but it should not spill over the bedroom and end in society’s vigilant eyes because everyone has a hidden desire to enjoy every moment of it but if given a chance they will not hesitate to offer you advice against it.